It can be a surprisingly beautiful and powerful experience to guide your own experience!
Get exactly what you want, when you want it. This can be particularly powerful when—at the beginning—you don't know what you want, or if you have difficulty asking for what you want in lovemaking.
This can be a wonderful massage for the woman who knows exactly what she wants, but it can also be a truly liberating experience for those who have suffered sexual abuse or trauma or have otherwise felt as though they lack control of their own sexual or sensual experience.
One fellow practitioner described a self-directed massage in which she sat for 55 minutes before the client asked for a single touch. With just a few minutes of gentle touch on her feet, the client breathed a deep sigh of gratitude and thanked her for the time.
Do not underestimate the power of knowing that you have complete power over your own experience!